Penny For Your Thoughts
For this post I will be talking about feedback thoughts and how I relate to it. The two articles I will be talking about are seven ways to crush self doubt and how to get past negativity bias.
When I read the first article about crushing self doubt the first thought that came into my head was "Remember when I didn't want to go to college", like I said in my Introduction post, I didn't want to go to college because I was unsure about what it is that I wanted to do and I was also self doubting myself whether or not I would be cut out for it or not. I had constant negative thoughts if I should do it or not until one day I just went for it. There is a very good Ted talk in the article about shame and vulnerability and I can definitely relate to it when I think about my first college experience, I felt that I would not be good enough and that others would cast judgment on someone who is twenty seven returning to education and as Brene Brown talks about in the video, I felt extremely vulnerable about the whole situation. As time went on though it got better, needless to say I made a whole bunch of mistakes at the start but looking back now I can say that I learned from them. I found this article to be a very good read and would recommend you to watch the Ted talk by Brown.
The second article talks about getting past negativity bias and this was another article that I found relates to me. It talk about the role the human brain has to play when it comes to development and gives tips on how to wire or rewire a persons thoughts for the better. It talks about how people are reluctant to focus on positive things that they do and scrutinise themselves over something negative that may have done. I can relate to what is being said in this article to a part of my life, that part being the sport I play. When I first started to play football(Soccer) at the age of 11 there was a football match where I had scored a goal to tie the game at 2-2, I had a chance to score the winning goal near the end of the game and completely skied the ball, I'm not even joking when I say that it was harder to miss than to score. The game finished 2-2 and even though I had scored to make it a draw, that miss was the only thing I could think about for days. After the game my manager could see that the miss had affected me and he said " A good striker doesn't think about a miss, he just thinks about the next goal" and that stuck with me for life when it came to playing football. Every footballer misses chances to get goals, its part of the game and when it happens to me I do just that- think about my next goal. I can honestly say that it has helped me when I am in a game because I can have seen what it can do to some people who don't think that way about it, iv seen players curl up after missing a chance to score a goal and their confidence get depleted. I can safely say that I have dealt with my thoughts on the matter and trust me Iv missed many chances since but scored 10 times as many.
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