Feedback Strategies

 Feedback

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For this post I will be discussing Feedback, and they ways in which it can be given and received. I began my research into ways to approach giving feedback be it positive or negative by reading an article titled How to give feedback without sounding like a jerk. This article was very informative and explained some of the psychology that is involved when it comes to giving someone feedback, it explains that the vocabulary a person uses can come across in a negative way even though a person may not notice that they are being negative. Instead when it is worded a different way a persons feedback can come across as constructive and the person receiving it will be more inclined to be open minded about receiving it. 

The next article I read was Why do so many managers avoid giving praise  . I could relate to this article the most as I have experienced some of the dilemmas in it first hand both at a job and in my time playing sports. Thinking about what the article discussed I have to agree with what the majority of it says in terms of people who are seen as leaders not being able to give positive feedback for reasons such as, If a manager of a company gives an employer positive feedback that the employer would become complacent and begin to slack. While this is certainly not always the case, I can say that I have seen this happen and understand why some managers shy away from it. I have learned much from this article about how someone can be perceived after they give feedback be it positive or negative.

I find it interesting about how the article discussed how managers did not give feedback for various personal reasons but I can help but think that this is a sign of someone who is not intended to lead, surely if you are to give someone feedback be it positive or negative it can only improve that person but the person in power may be worried about how they are viewed afterwards. In my opinion, someone who can give feedback without coming across as rude or belittling is someone who I would rather have as my boss.     

Feedback Thoughts

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 For this post I will be talking about feedback thoughts and how I relate to it. The two articles I will be talking about are seven ways to crush self doubt and how to get past negativity bias. 

When I read the first article about crushing self doubt the first thought that came into my head was "Remember when I didn't want to go to college", like I said in my Introduction post, I didn't want to go to college because I was unsure about what it is that I wanted to do and I was also self doubting myself whether or not I would be cut out for it or not. I had constant negative thoughts if I should do it or not until one day I just went for it. There is a very good Ted talk in the article about shame and vulnerability and I can definitely relate to it when I think about my first college experience, I felt that I would not be good enough and that others would cast judgment on someone who is twenty seven returning to education and as Brene Brown talks about in the video, I felt extremely vulnerable about the whole situation. As time went on though it got better, needless to say I made a whole bunch of mistakes at the start but looking back now I can say that I learned from them. I found this article to be a very good read and would recommend you to watch the Ted talk by Brown.

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The second article talks about getting past negativity bias and this was another article that I found relates to me. It talk about the role the human brain has to play when it comes to development and gives tips on how to wire or rewire a persons thoughts for the better. It talks about how people are reluctant to focus on positive things that they do and scrutinise themselves over something negative that may have done. I can relate to what is being said in this article to a part of my life, that part being the sport I play. When I first started to play football(Soccer) at the age of 11 there was a football match where I had scored a goal to tie the game at 2-2, I had a chance to score the winning goal near the end of the game and completely skied the ball, I'm not even joking when I say that it was harder to miss than to score. The game finished 2-2 and even though I had scored to make it a draw, that miss was the only thing I could think about for days. After the game my manager could see that the miss had affected me and he said " A good striker doesn't think about a miss, he just thinks  about the next goal" and that stuck with me for life when it came to playing football. Every footballer misses chances to get goals, its part of the game and when it happens to me I do just that- think about my next goal. I can honestly say that it has helped me when I am in a game because I can have seen what it can do to some people who don't think that way about it, iv seen players curl up after missing a chance to score a goal and their confidence get depleted. I can safely say that I have dealt with my thoughts on the matter and trust me Iv missed many chances since but scored 10 times as many.   

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